Best friend breakups are one of the worst things to go through. Even worse than breaking up with a significant other because you just lost the person you need to confide in over it. I think this is why so many of us decide to stay friends with our BFFs even though you know it’s time for the friendship to end. Starting from scratch and building a new friendship with someone else is actually kind of hard, so we just stay friends with them. We really need to learn to let it go and realize it might be time to break up with your best friend.
1. They’ve gone M.I.A. because of a new significant other
This is probably the most common situation for a best friend breakup because you get thrown to the side. Obviously in the beginning of a relationship, you let it slide because they’re really excited and you can’t help but be excited for them. But after a few months of not being able to hang out because they want to be with their S.O., it actually just becomes a little unfair to you.
Note: If this is the reason for a much needed BFF breakup, then avoid watching Life Partners on Netflix. It’ll hit a little too close to home.
2. If they’ve become a total flake
I have a friend who used to be one of my closest back in high school. Now she is known for being the girl who makes multiple plans in one night to ensure that she’ll go out that night. She bails on the person whose plans sound less promising. If you have a friend like that, cut them lose. You clearly aren’t worth their time, so they shouldn’t be worth yours.
3. You have nothing to talk about anymore
It’s totally normal to begin to drift apart from someone whom you were once so close with, especially if it’s an old high school or college friend. Those close friends will then turn into the person you get lunch with every now and then. Soon the two of you realize you have nothing to really talk about anymore. Stop doing these dreadful lunches you feel obligated in going to and just put an end to the friendship.
4. You’re not the first person they hit up with plans
Best friends are allowed to have separate friends, don’t get me wrong. Sometimes you need to do something on your own without your other half. That’s totally okay and understandable, but what isn’t okay is when your BFF is going to hang out with your shared friends group without inviting you. You shouldn’t be seeing their snap story or Instagram pictures, and wondering why you weren’t invited. If it happens a few times, fine, but after that it’s intentional and unnecessary.
5. You don’t like their views on important issues
This might sound very close-minded, but honestly it’s not. You see enough of what you don’t agree with on the news and social media. Why add that ignorance to a time you just want to go out and have fun with your friend. If you are just going to end up bickering with them, what is the point in being friends?
6. They’re only there when it’s convenient for them
Ugh, these are the worst friends. When you don’t hear from them for a while and then expect you to be there to deal with their problems. That isn’t cool. Where were they when you needed them?
If you can relate to any of these situations, then it may be time to break up with your best friend. If The Hills taught us anything, sometimes you just have to do want Lauren did and tell your BFF, “I want to forgive you and I want to forget you.”