Sometimes, through no fault of your own, it can be hard to feel good about yourself. Self love is something that we see preached pretty much everywhere, from our Twitter feeds to women’s magazines to all our dinners with our girlfriends, but the truth is that when it comes to putting it into practice, loving yourself is easier said than done.
Here are some tips on how to increase your self esteem in your everyday life…
Get Fit And Healthy
One of the best ways for you to feel more love for your body is to simply enable it to work a little better. Taking more exercise and eating better is the body equivalent of oiling the creaking hinges on your bedroom door – the smoothness afterwards, the beauty of the new way that it works, will be worth the messiness and temporary inconvenience. If you start doing a little more yoga then you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the way that you can stand up on public transport with excellent posture without falling over; if you start walking more often then you’ll be pleasantly gratified when you lose a few pounds and your thighs get a little tighter; if you start doing more cardio then you’ll be delighted when you can run up a flight of stairs without feeling breathless and nauseated when you reach the top. Feeling your body working well because of exercise that you’ve done is the number one way to feel more affection and love for it.
Get A Makeover
Let’s face it: the way you feel about yourself can often depend on the way that you feel when you look at yourself in the mirror, and if it’s been a while since you’ve had your hair cut and you’re still using a dried out mascara from 2015, then you probably need to make a few changes in order to feel better about yourself. Clear out your closet and discover hidden gems that you’ve forgotten about by donating all the clothes that you don’t feel good in and that you no longer wear – and make sure that you give away everything that you’re telling yourself you’ll lose weight to fit into! Go to a department store to have a bra professionally fitted so you have a more sleek and curvy shape under your clothes, get your hair cut and colored, and go to a makeup counter and ask for recommendations for skincare and makeup. Taking care of yourself will help you feel considerably better.
Make Some Changes
Something that we often don’t focus on is that if we want to make some changes to our appearances, it is possible to do so – and it doesn’t make you shallow or vapid. Cosmetic surgery is always an option, whether you want to go for braces and tooth whitening to improve your crooked teeth, or whether you want to change the shape of your nose that’s bugged you for years. Doctors like Dr. Josh Greenwald can be found online – if you’re considering making some changes to your body via cosmetic surgery then it’s always a good idea to have a lengthy consultation with your doctor first to make sure they know what exactly you want.
Focus On Your Mental Health
If you feel bad about yourself and it’s starting to get more than a little unrelenting then you might have some problems with your mental health that you could get medical help for. A lot of people are a lot more unkind to themselves than they would ever be to other people, and if you’re one of those people then going to a good therapist will help you start to understand that you need to treat yourself more kindly and to use more positive language about yourself. If you don’t take as much pleasure in things you used to love, or if you find yourself more irritable than usual, talk to your doctor about possibly having depression – medication and therapy could help you feel much better.
Remember You’re No Imposter
Have you ever felt awkward and stuck when you’re talking to someone new? A lot of us have had those moments at parties where you’re standing next to people you barely know and you’re letting loose with that bright high artificial laughter at a joke that you don’t quite understand, and amidst the glasses of wine and brightly colored dresses on everyone around you, all you can think is: I don’t belong here. Faking it is something that a lot of us feel as though we’re doing every day – have you ever heard of Imposter Syndrome? If you feel as though you aren’t clever enough for your job and friends and that you’re faking it and that you’ll inevitably be found out one day, then remember: you aren’t alone. A lot of people (mostly women) feel that way. And you absolutely are good enough, or you wouldn’t be in your position. If you feel shy or awkward, take up new hobbies and new interests, read more, find out new things. Having more knowledge about current events and culture will make sure that you’ve always got things to talk about so you’ll feel more confident in social situations.
Surround Yourself With Good People
Finally, it’s important to make sure that the people you surround yourself with are good for you. Not every friend is alike and sometimes you might suddenly realize that someone you’ve known for years isn’t quite as kind as you’d like them to be. Be honest and upfront if you feel that someone’s being passive aggressive or comparing you negatively to other people – friendships should be uncomplicated and free of drama, and frankly if someone doesn’t make you feel good about yourself then they should have no place in your life. On a similar note, there’s nothing like a bad boyfriend to destroy your self esteem. If he keeps you hanging, or he doesn’t message you back, or he doesn’t pay enough attention to you when you’re together, ditch him. There are always better people out there, and you deserve to feel loved by those around you – and of course, by yourself.