There are lots of points in life when you’re encouraged to think about what you want to do. As a child, people ask you what you want to be when you grow up. When you leave school, it feels like you have to choose the career you want to keep forever. If you’re unsure about where your life is heading, it can feel hugely discouraging. You see people you know from school on Facebook, and they all seem to have their lives together. But you don’t have any plans for the future or any idea what your life will look like in five years. For some people, this is ok. However, if you want to give your life more direction, have a look at some of the things you can do.
Look for Guidance
Speaking to other people will help you to get an outside perspective. Sometimes their words will give you a kick in the butt. They might not even need to say anything special. They could say something you disagree with that makes you affirm your own thoughts. You don’t necessarily have to look for guidance from a single person. Some people might like to look for spiritual guidance. It can help you reflect on your current situation and what you want from life. You might talk to a leader in your community, or visit a site like Psychictopia to read the resources there. Having someone to guide and mentor you can help you achieve more.
Think About What Your Skills and Passions
Right now, you might feel like you’re stuck in a rut. You’re doing a job you don’t enjoy or at least doesn’t give you any excitement. Some people think that’s fine, as long as their personal life balances it out. But if you don’t have anything you love in that area either, you can feel like life is pretty pointless. When you think about what you like and what you’re good at, you don’t necessarily have to apply them to your job. You might decide you want to change your career, but you could be equally happy engaging in your passion in your free time. Not every artist or even business owner needs to do it full time.
Picture Yourself on Your Deathbed
It might be a bit morbid to imagine dying, but it can help you think about what you want to do with your life. When you’re looking back at everything you have done, what do you want to have achieved? Perhaps you want to be able to say you raised a beautiful family or that you built a business empire. You might wish to have helped people through your work or volunteering, or to have been a good friend. Of course, none of these things is mutually exclusive. You could want all of these things and more.
Consider the Short-term First
The important thing to remember about the future is that you can’t plan it all. You can’t predict what’s going to happen, so it’s impossible to map out your entire life. The best thing you can do is take the first few steps toward a goal. If you manage to complete them, you can then think about taking the next couple of steps. You can only plan for the short-term, in reality. For example, you could move home to get closer to your desire of becoming an actor. But then something happens to your mother, and you move again to look after her. It might seem like you’ve gone backward, but it’s just that your path forward has changed direction.
Put a Plan in Place
Procrastination can be your worst enemy. Maybe you do have lots of desires for what you want to do with your life. But you never get anywhere because you’re not doing anything to achieve your goals. If you want to get to where you want to be, you need a plan. Writing down some of the steps you need to take to get what you want is one of the first steps. Of course, you also have to work toward making these things happen. Break everything down into manageable objectives so that it’s easier.
Go with the Flow
You don’t have to have a solid plan for the next 50 years. In fact, it wouldn’t make sense to have one. You have to do the best with what you have sometimes. If the best you can do is go with the flow, that’s what you need to do. If something unexpected happens, change your plans and decide on your next move.
If you don’t know where your life is heading, you’re not the only one. Don’t be afraid to ask questions or worry if you can’t come up with any answers.