It’s a Hard Knock Holiday for Singles
Remember when we were all five, and the only thing we had to worry about was whether or not we had included everything on our What I Want for Christmas… list? When the only meal we were worried about having prepared, was the “meal” we’d be leaving behind to impress Santa? Or how the only reason we weren’t in our beds past 1:00 am was not to clean up after friends and relatives, but in our attempts to catch a glimpse of the jolly, white bearded fella himself? Those were the days. The golden years of our life, when holiday season was like a vacation itself, not the cause for one.
As everyone knows, holidays are turbulent enough with just family, friends, relatives, and co-workers. So you understand that when you have to consider throwing in your newly found or still “Single” status into the mix, you feel like you just threw yourself in front of a grenade.
Playing singleton during holiday season is neither fun nor easy. Every conversation you have begins with something like “Oh my god…it’s so good to see you! Is that a new haircut? How’s school/work going for you? Can you believe so-and-so broke up, and now so-and-so is dating so-and-so? Speaking of which…where is your date? Who’s the lucky guy? What’s his name?” Cue the silence crickets.
You now know the Devil is very much real, and is very much out to get you. In that moment you have two options:
- Clarify that you’re actually single and hear the usual overused, over-the-top “comforting” words of wisdom they will all…literary all of them… will throw your way, or
- Lie and say “Oh yeah…my boyfriend…um (insert name of current crush) …oh yeah…he is really sick. It’s bad. His face… it’s all purple…because he’s so sick. He really wanted to come for me though, but I told him he should rest.”
Regardless of what you choose, the truth is that you’ll still feel miserable in the end. Why? Because even though it’s the 21st century and men and women are equal, and your career has never been better, and holiday spirits are in the air, and the snow’s never looked as magical as it does this winter…you are still a damsel in distress.
The holidays are here and you’re looking to blend into the background, all because you don’t have a man by your side? That is most cray-cray thing anyone could do, since the phrase “cray-cray” was invented.
It’s true that our society has a negative hype about the “Single” status being embarrassing, but don’t let that stop you from taking part in all that the holidays have to offer. Remember that they only come around once a year, so soak it up while you have the chance! Don’t let something silly, like your relationship status, tell you otherwise. Tis’ the season to spread cheer and love to others, not mope in self pity. If you really need to get it out of your system, you can save that for Valentine’s Day.
Being single is just that. Being single. It doesn’t mean being lonely or alone. Look around you, and you’ll see that your holidays are already filled with numerous people that love and care for you unconditionally. What more does a girl want? Spend time cozying up with those people and learn to appreciate and celebrate them. You’ll realize that you’re your own knight in shining armor this holiday season. And if that’s not satisfactory enough for you, just know that being unhappy alone during the holidays, is always better than being unhappy while you’re with someone.
5 Reasons Why Being Single Is a Privilege During the Holidays…
- You can eat/drink whatever you want. Feel like devouring the gingerbread cookies and going on an eggnog binge? Do it! That stuff is delish! You don’t have anyone to make you feel guilty.
- You can be a serial mistletoe-er without hesitation. You don’t have your prince, so what’s to stop you from kissing a bunch of frogs? Granted, most of them might just be frogs at the end of it. But who knows? What if one them turns into your prince?
- Save your bucks…or don’t. Holidays are expensive, especially if you have a significant other. You’ll save money on both gifts and travel expenses. If you don’t feel like saving, spend it all on you.
- No Drama Mama. A room filled with crazy from your side of the family and his? If that’s not a potion for eventual disaster, I don’t know what is.
- Your Time, So You Do You. Having a significant other sucks up time. Whether that’s time spent on looking good for him, cooking, cleaning or whatever, you’re forced to sacrifice your “me” time. With no one in the picture, you are free to do whatever you want, however you want, and when you want.