They say the path of true love never runs smooth, but sometimes, it’s impossible to navigate a never-ending obstacle course. If you’re constantly up against it and plain sailing is nothing but a dream, it may be time to call it a day. If you’re experiencing relationship woes, or you’ve hit a bump in the road, this guide may help.
What’s gone wrong?
If you’re having troubles in your relationship, think about what has gone wrong. Is there a single event or a specific time you can pinpoint where things started to go downhill? Have you been arguing for a while? Or do you want different things? If there’s a single cause, such as unfaithfulness, it’s important to think carefully about your next step. For some people, it’s impossible to move on. For others, mistakes can be forgiven and the relationship may be worth saving.
If things have run their course and you’re just not enjoying the time you spend together, do you want to make an effort to change the situation? Are there things you could do to rekindle the flames? Do you dread the thought of being away from your partner? Or have you just drifted apart, and you’re willing to accept that it’s best to move on?
Talk and share
If you’re thinking about the future, it’s wise to avoid making snap decisions. Take time to talk and be open and honest with each other. Share your feelings and tell your partner what you think is best for the future. If you want to break up, it’s better to be honest. Don’t string your partner along just because it may be difficult to walk away. In the short-term, it may be very painful. But it will only be worse if you give it another go and then end up in the same place further down the line. If you want to give it one last shot, make sure you identify potential problems and try to address them. Focus on moving forward together and make your relationship your priority. Work on spending more time together and go back to basics. Have fun together and put each other first.
Sometimes, it’s not possible to deal with relationship issues on your own. Professionals can help to support and advise you at what can be a very tough time. If you’ve decided to end your marriage, look into divorce mediation services. If you want to stay together, marriage counselling may be beneficial. Don’t feel like you have to go it alone. Keep your friends and family close and turn to them for advice and emotional support.
If you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it can be scary and upsetting to think of it coming to an end. Sometimes, it’s best to admit defeat if you’re both unhappy and you can’t see a way forward. In other cases, the relationship may be worth saving. Take time to think and reflect and don’t be afraid to ask for help.