Getting married is something that many of us consider as the ultimate achievement. You get to marry the love of your life and plan an incredible wedding day. Unfortunately, many people focus too much on the wedding and not on their marriage. This is a lifelong commitment that you are entering, where you are legally bound to each other. Once you’re married, every decision you make will require their consideration too from where you live to your monthly budget. It will be a complete change from what you are used to and can be a huge shock to the system. This is why it’s so important that you are both prepared and ready for what marriage entails. To help you do this, make some time to complete these couples tasks before your big day arrives.
Meet the parents
If you haven’t already, now is the perfect time to meet and spend time with each other’s parents. When you marry the person you love, you also marry their family. So making an effort with parents and siblings is an absolute must. You could invite them over for dinner at your home to give you a chance to get to know each other. Ask your partner for advice on what you should talk about and give them the same advice in return. You could start a conversation about a hobby your partner’s Father enjoys or a TV show your Mother loves. You could also discuss details about your wedding and invite them to your bridal shower or your partner’s bachelor party. It can be easy to feel anxious when you’re trying to make a good impression. Just remember to be friendly, listen carefully and remain calm. That way you are bound to marvel your future in-laws.
Even though many engaged couples live together, not all of them do. If you fit into this category, your next task is to experience living together. You could rent a nearby Airbnb apartment or move into your partner’s home for a week. This will be an eye-opening experience for both of you and allows you to familiarize yourself with being together full time. You may discover things about each other that you didn’t know previously. You might enjoy watching TV whereas your partner prefers reading during the evenings. Or your partner may not know how to use a dishwasher or doesn’t cook as often as you do. While these are minor things, knowing about them now can help you get more prepared for what’s in store.
See a marriage counselor
Another task you need to complete is seeing a marriage counselor. This is something that many couples deem as unnecessary. But in fact, they can be extremely beneficial to a soon-to-be-married couple. Your counseling sessions allow you be open and honest about issues within your relationship. For instance, you might be unsure how to deal with arguments in the right way or be unwilling to compromise. Your counselor can help you set goals and work towards meeting them before your wedding day. This sets strong foundations for your marriage as well as being more considerate of how you treat each other. This can be done in a private session with just you, your counselor and your partner. But some programs also involve you working with other couples and sharing your experiences in a group environment. Start looking for marriage counselors in your local area online and book your first session as soon as possible.
Discuss the future
As well as living together, you also need to sit down and talk about your future together. This discussion should cover everything from children to household chores. This is a vital activity that every engaged couple should do before they get married to ensure they are both on the same page. The last thing you want is to discover that your partner doesn’t want the same things as you after your wedding day. This will only lead to heartbreak and potentially the end of your relationship. Sit down with your partner, talk through each important topic and listen to each other’s thoughts and feelings. This will make it far easier to plan your future together and ensure you’re both getting married for the right reasons.
These tasks will teach you and your partner more about each other before you tie the knot. It can strengthen your bond and make you even more eager to walk down the aisle. On the other hand, it could make you realize that maybe you aren’t ready for such a big commitment. It’s far better to discover this now rather than after you’ve got married.