In an ideal world, wedding planning should be split equally between the bride and groom. But in the majority of cases, much of the organization falls to the bride. The sharing of duties should be agreed upon by the couple, and this will vary.
Some brides enjoy taking the reigns with this. However, there are several duties that the groom must fulfill to ensure everything runs smoothly.
1. Engagement Ring
If an engagement ring wasn’t part of the proposal, the groom will need to arrange this. Many modern couples prefer to choose the ring together. The groom should also be aware of the countless choices available and do some research. For example, along with the bride, he needs to decide whether to buy an ‘off-the-shelf’ ring or go bespoke and buy loose diamonds and have them made into a unique setting.
2. Wedding List
The groom is responsible for his side of the wedding list. In discussion with his parents, he should put together a guest list of family members and friends. This should include the correct form of address for each person and up-to-date address.
3. Arranging The Best Man And Groomsmen
The best man and the groomsmen are the groom’s domain. He is responsible for approaching them and inviting them to be members of the wedding party. This includes arranging suit fittings. Some of the organization can be delegated to the best man to make things easier, but it is down to the groom to follow up and ensure everything is completed.
4. Following Up On RSVPs
Dealing with the guest list is a job in itself, especially if it’s a large wedding. It shouldn’t be left to the bride or bride’s parents to follow up on anyone who hasn’t yet replied. This task should be split equally between both parties to ensure the burden doesn’t fall on one person.
5. A Gift For The Bride
Traditionally the bride and groom exchange wedding gifts. It goes without saying that the groom is responsible for purchasing and wrapping a gift for his new wife.
Though there are no rules, it is traditional for the groom to make a speech and toast during the reception. This falls to him, though he is free to ask for advice and find inspiration.
7. Providing Input
A wedding is a huge undertaking. Often it involves planning a series of events; the ceremony, the receptions, etc., and not forgetting the bachelor and bachelorette parties. Despite the sharing of responsibilities, the groom should have an input in all the major decisions, including the choice of venues, meals, order of service, etc.
8. Managing His Family
Families can be difficult when it comes to weddings. Old feuds rear their heads and quarrels can threaten to derail things. The bride has enough on her plate dealing with her own family. Therefore, the groom must take responsibility for his own family and friends.
9. Cutting Through The Rules
Traditionally, wedding planning is seen as the bride’s domain and something she happily arranges with her parents. But in reality, the old traditions don’t always fit. Some brides hate the fuss and organization. Some grooms enjoy deciding on table linen and fonts for place settings, etc. Along with the bride, the groom must decide how to interpret the rules and traditions and incorporate them in a way that suits them.