There’s something glamorous and pleasurable about sitting down with a cup of tea and watching an episode of Sex And The City. Whether you watched this show about four single ladies (Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha) when you were a teen or in your adult years, it was hard not to walk away from an episode without learning something new. This HBO series was a lesson guide for single women everywhere. Here are 8 important lessons we can all learn from this fashionably addicting show.

Have fun with fashion

I would be lying if I said I loved every piece of clothing that SATC’s women wore. But I can respect their willingness to be daring and different. Fashion should be fun, as it is a way of expressing who we are, it’s art but doesn’t have to be everyone’s cup of tea. You can always experiment and then wear something different tomorrow. So try that dress with the obnoxiously large flower on the shoulder. Life is short, so you might as well wear what you like.

Treat yourself!

I enviously stare at each outfit Carrie is wearing and pray one day I can have something as amazing. But here’s a good question…why can’t I? Don’t be afraid to treat yourself to something special. Sure, they are just a pair of shoes but if those shoes are going to put a smile on your face, then splurge. It doesn’t have to be every day like Ms. Bradshaw, but it can be a nice addition to your life.

It’s a bad day, not a bad life

These ladies were living proof that even a lucky lady has her off days. They were dumped on post its, plastered on an NYC bus looking strung out, pooping their pants in paradise, and eating cake out of the garbage (spoiler alert, sorry ladies). But they never let those bad days keep them down. Just remember that you can still have a bad day and be a sexy lady.

Take care of yourself

While Carrie’s ability to shop on the budget of a freelance writer was a little unrealistic, these four women all had careers and supported themselves. They each owned or rented their own apartments bought their own clothes and lived a lifestyle that was chic enough for New York City. Yes, this show is fictional but the idea of women being able to afford life on an Upper East Side life on her own is not. Follow the SATC’s ladies lead, be your own financial hero.

It’s okay to have fun!

You’re young, beautiful, and unattached. That is not a bad thing at all! These are your selfish years. These women were in their 30’s they never once apologized for having fun or for dating. These are the years where you’re going to find yourself and that means trying new things. Whether it’s a guy or a job, don’t be afraid to not have it all together. Life is all about the ride, just make sure you’re doing it like Carrie with some cute shoes. 😉

Don’t live your life for a man

I love each of the four women because they were unique and strong individuals. We can all relate to one of these women who possess different qualities. Whether it’s Carrie’s emotions, Miranda’s determination, Charlotte’s obsession with romance, or Samantha’s risk-taking initiative. The lesson throughout the entire series and throughout the movies is that they didn’t lose their selves, even when they were involved with men. The men were apart of their life but didn’t define them. A woman can be strong and still find love without losing herself in the process.

Don’t give up on happily ever after

I’m not a supporter of sticking around with a man who treats you poorly. However, Carrie had many loves but one just couldn’t stay away. It’s hard not to love Mr. Big and every one of us has or will have our own. I’m not telling you that we all are supposed to end up with him. Maybe your Mr. Big isn’t meant to be your prince charming, but maybe he is. Stay open to the idea of ending up with the man of your dreams. These ladies never gave up and neither should you.

Our friends can be our soul mates

Who said that men are the ones you’re supposed to spend the rest of your life with? Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha all had many different love interests in the shows six seasons. We watched many men come and go. But one thing always stuck around and that was their friendship. These women fought, cried, and laughed together. They survived breakups, cancer, babies and divorce. They were with each other 100% of the way, supporting and loving one another. A soul mate is someone who is ideally suited to you, and that also means your girlfriends. These women counted on each other and in the end, were each other’s best life partners.

Next time you find yourself worrying about things in life, just relax on the couch and watch your favorite ladies from Sex and The City! Remember, they made the most of their lives in all stages and you should, too!