How do you know when you have found the one? How can you be sure that you’re dating the person that you should spend the rest of your life with. It’s fair to say that once you hit thirty anyone starts to look like a sure thing. You begin to worry about spending the rest of your life alone, and that’s when you begin to settle for less than you deserve.
We’re not talking about the romantic notion that your heart should skip a beat when you see the person you’re with. We just mean ending up with someone who is less of a person than the one you should be with. Still, the mind plays tricks on us and convinces us it’s love when it’s really just lust or even loneliness.
So how do we know when we’ve actually found that special person?
They Listen
It might seem like a simple gesture but this is a luxury that most people don’t actually have in their relationship. We’re humans and that means we’re all different. There are just under 7.5 billion people in this world and it’s unlikely that you’ll find someone who shares the exact same views, beliefs, and interests as you. If you did, you probably wouldn’t end up with them because you’d find the dates incredibly dull. The trick then is to find someone who still cares and listens to what you care about. While they may not appreciate your passions, they accept them and love them because they are a part of who you are. If you find yourself dating someone who doesn’t care about things that matter to you, dump them. They’re not worth the time or the effort.
You Can Trust Them
It’s a scary dating world out there right now with the average person having up to five partners on the go at the same time. It makes it hard to know when you should commit to an individual and know that they are going to do the same for you. Then there’s the worrying statistic that approximately eighty percent of married couples would consider cheating on their partners. So, you do need to be careful that you find someone you can trust and who loves you deeply enough never to do that. There are always telltale signs that your partner doesn’t trust you. Or, that you shouldn’t trust them. Unfortunately, these two ideas tend to collide. For instance, if you trust your partner you shouldn’t ask to look at their phone. But, if they have nothing to hide they shouldn’t mind you seeing it. It’s a catch 22 situation.
Are You Compatible?
There are multiple ways to get some stats on whether you’re compatible with your partner. You can turn your attention to the stars with a love compatibility lesson from horoscopes. You can look at the reactions of people around you to see what they think of your relationship. But perhaps the best way is to sit down and think about your differences and similarities. How often do you fight? People say that fighting in a relationship is healthy because it shows there’s passion. But, if you’re fighting every day it’s probably not the best pairing. There are ways to fix problems such as couple's counseling. But at the same time, you might find that you’re fighting a losing battle.
Do They Let You Down?
If your partner is always there for you when you need them, we think you’ve found a keeper. They should offer you full emotional support when there’s problems in your life. If they can’t do this or constantly don’t offer the support that you need, it’s best to let the relationship go. When you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with they should be able to give you everything you need. It shouldn’t be all give and no take, you deserve better than that.
Do They Love You For Who You Are?
Finally, think about who you were when you met the person you're with. Now, think about who you are today. Have you changed and if so, have these changes been positive? Or, were you happier several years ago before you met them. Did they try and change you to turn you into who they wanted in a partner? All these questions will help you figure out whether you are truly happy or just settling for what you think you can get. Believe it or not, there isn’t one person for everyone. If they aren’t living up to who you wanted to be with in life, maybe you should look for someone else. Life is far too short to be tied down to the wrong person.
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